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Hey oloni, I was in a relationship for 5 years and yes I put my hands up I messed up a few times with this ONE guy but things still continued. Then the final straw was pulled (I messed up ) I cheated with the one guy my ex was in competition with for the whole 5 years (yes that one guy mentioned previously). Shortly after he got with a new girl, very similar to me, his whole family never spoke to me again AND he married her within 7 months of knowing each other . It’s now been over a year since the break up and I’m still not over it and I’m in a dark deep pit of depression. To make it worse the other guy doesn’t even speak to me anymore. Please send some advice to move on. Please don’t shame me I’m fully aware of my mistakes tbh I don’t blame him at all 12. May 2025

I’m not going to shame you, but it sounds like you need to get some therapy girl. We all make mistakes, but it’s important to hold yourself accountable and maybe ask yourself why you did what you did. Forgive yourself and find ways to try and move on. Honestly everything happens for a reason. He couldn’t have been your person if you messed not once, but a few times. You will get through this. Book that appointment, journal, and reflect.

Oloni

No question- I’m just here to flog you again sis. Where are the podcast episodes? What’s going on ? Get it together I enjoy them sm 12. May 2025

Screaming. I hear it.

Oloni

Hey Oloni. What is it called when you only want oral sex, kissing, cuddling, breast sucking and fingering but no penetration? Because that’s where I’m at currently in my life. Should I communicate it to my partner? 12. May 2025

Yes definitely communicate it, but it also sounds like you’re just not getting enough of it as a whole. Communicate and enjoy that phase, it’ll help make the sex better when you’re ready for that again.

Oloni

Hey Oloni, my boyfriend called me today saying his car broke down in an area with no signal and his phone died while he was waiting for a tow truck. He was supposed to take me out last night, but I never heard from him. I bought a new dress, and he even paid for my hair and makeup, so I was excited. His phone was completely off, and I had no way of reaching him. He’s now saying he’ll make it up to me today. He did have roses sent to me yesterday, but I can’t shake the feeling that he was with someone else. Crazy thing is, he sent me a screenshot of the breakdown service as proof, but something about it just isn’t sitting right with me. I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if something’s actually off. Help! 15. February 2025

Sis, I’m not saying he’s lying… but something ain’t adding up.

His car conveniently broke down in an area with no signal, and his phone just happened to die while waiting? And now that he’s back, he’s coming with receipts like a man that’s been preparing his defence all night? Hmm.

The screenshot is cute, but what exactly isn’t sitting right with you? Is the timestamp missing? Does it look generic? Did he only send it after you asked? Trust that gut feeling, because men who move right don’t usually leave you feeling like this.

Oloni

Hey Oloni, my ex and I broke up two years ago. We were on and off for four years, and it was a very intense relationship. We’ve both grown up a bit now. I’m 30, he’s 33, and we’ve been cool for the past year. Recently, he asked if I had slept with anyone else when we were in our on & off phase. He still swears he never did , but I told him the truth. I slept with three guys during one of our breakups, even though back then I lied and said I hadn’t. He promised he’d be cool about it, but he was visibly pissed after I told him. He started giving me short answers and acting off. I don’t get it. He has been in a relationship since we broke up, so why is he mad? It can’t be that serious, right? 11. February 2025

You bruised his ego. Should you have lied back then probably not, but what you do when you’re single is none of his business. He promised he’d be cool about it and he isn’t so take it as a lesson. Also for someone who has been in a relationship after everything it’s interesting that he still has strong emotions about what you did in the past, when you weren’t together. Is he looking for a reason to fight or what?

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